Marlys Stament Rivard

Marlys Stament Rivard, age 79, died on Thursday, Jan. 9, 2020, in hospice care at her home in Clear Lake City, surrounded by friends and family. She died after a courageous six-year battle with congestive heart failure and Parkinson’s disease with complications.

Marlys was born Jan. 19, 1941 in Minneapolis MN to William J. and Stella Fries Stament. She married John Rivard in 1963 and the couple lived in the Houston area for their 56 years together. Marlys was a loving and devoted wife, an exceptional mother and home manager and the Rivard family financial officer and social director. She was a “professional Mom.”

Marlys and John raised three beautiful daughters, two of which suffered severe brain injuries in separate automobile accidents during their teen years. With courage, steadfast perseverance and dedication, Marlys directed and led the long fight back from coma and the subsequent years of rehabilitation for both daughters. Although daughter Kathleen ultimately succumbed to a seizure-related loss of oxygen to the brain, the rebuilding of daughters Kathleen and Stephanie was Marlys’s greatest accomplishment, a tribute to a mother’s love and commitment to family and duty. During the years of rehabilitation for their daughters, Marlys and John helped establish the local chapter of the Brain Injury Foundation to help other families suffering this silent epidemic.

After the 1989 death of daughter Kathleen, Marlys and John found relief and pleasure in dancing, which became an avocation. They traveled to and danced in all 50 states, finding joy, exercise and purpose in polka, Cajun and country-western swing dancing. They became ambassadors of dance, and helped publish a monthly newspaper, The Texas Polka News, continuing that publication for a dozen years after the death of its founder. Marlys’s “Red-Neck Recipes” monthly feature became a popular part of the paper. Their dancing adventures found them dancing in 485 Texas dance halls over their 24-year dancing career. Her irrepressible personality made fun happen in whatever circles she traveled.

Marlys was an excellent seamstress who made all the wardrobes for the Rivard daughters as they were being raised, and all her own clothes. Later she volunteered two days per week for 20+ years in local charitable thrift shops benefiting battered women, turning this community service into an opportunity to become clothier for her family.

After daughter Kathleen died in 1989, Marlys turned her mothering energies into shepherding the 4-year-old class at St. Bernadette’s Mother’s Day Out program for five years, thereby creating the “Kindergarten Cop” role before Arnold Schwarzenegger did.

A staunch social and fiscal conservative, Marlys was ever ready to talk politics and was never known to lose a discussion with a liberal. She would say this was because she was “right.” The Rivards became active in politics and Marlys became a Republican precinct chairman before their daughter’s head injuries eclipsed all such activities.

Marlys had a strong belief in God and her Catholic faith. The Rivard family became active in their parish church affairs, helping to instill solid Christian values in their daughters. She served on the Parish Council at St. Mary’s in Laporte and started a Junior Catholic Youth Organization (CYO), building on her earlier success as a Brownie leader. In later years as she battled her illnesses, Marlys developed a strong devotion to the Archangel Raphael (associated with healing), the Virgin Mary – Undoer of Knots (who unties knots in our lives), and Padre Pio.

The Celebration of her Life will begin on Sunday, January 12, 2020 with a Visitation from 6:00- 7:00 pm and a Vigil Service and Rosary at 7:00 pm at Crowder Funeral home, 111 E. Medical Center Blvd., Webster, TX. The Funeral Mass will follow on Monday, January 13, 2020 at 10:30 am at St. Clare of Assisi Catholic Church, 3131 El Dorado Blvd., Houston, TX 77059.

Marlys is preceded in death by daughter Kathleen and son-in-law Mark Brinkman, and survived by husband John, daughter Teresa Rivard Brinkman, daughter Stephanie Rivard Lane, son-in-law Richard Lane, grandson Matthew Brinkman and wife Rebecca, granddaughter Marie Brinkman Loew and husband Sean Loew, and three great grandchildren.

In lieu of flowers, donations may be made in her name to either of two favorite causes, the Houston Chapter of Texas Right to Life (713-782-LIFE) or to the Michael J. Fox Foundation promoting research into the cause and cure of Parkinson’s disease.

8 comments

  1. The world is less bright with her gone, but they are probably passing out sunglasses in heaven…..the Marshall’s

    Brian Marshall
  2. John, Teresa, Stephanie,
    my sincerest condolences.
    I know well the loss of a spouse and partner, but we can look forward to being with them again,You and She will be in my prayers.

    Noel Smith
  3. John and Family
    So sorry to hear of your loss. Its a hard thing to go through. My prayers are with you. Murlene

    Murlene Ware
  4. My deepest sympathies are with you. Marlys was indeed a very special lady. May our Lord surround you with His amazing comfort in the days and weeks ahead.

    Sincerely,
    Joyce Hagen
    (Mrs. Clarence)

    Joyce Hagen
  5. Marilyn and I are saddened to know of Marlys death. We have many happy and also sad memories of our association together. We thought so much of you both and the inspiration you gave to those with brain injuries.

    Our best to you and your family. We are praying for you.

    Gary Dillard

    Gary Dill\ard
  6. John, I would like to express my deepest sympathy for the loss of Marlys. I know the last few years were challenging, as I experienced about the same number of years with Barbara. May you find strength from your Faith and Friends thru these times. May 2020 be kinder to us all. God bless you.

    Gene Hackemack
  7. Today is August 31, 2020. I am not sure why I began to think of my childhood friend and neighbor today, but I have and I remembered that Marlys’ married name was Rivard and found her unfortunately as deceased.

    We lived across the street from each other and often played dolls and other things together. I knew her mom and dad. She attended Catholic school and I the public school. As we got older we drifted apart and went separate ways and eventually I lost track of her, other than knowing she lived in TX. I am now in the Kansas City area.

    But I always loved my Marlys and knew she had married and had 3 daughters. I was hoping to renew our friendship and say hello today. I see so many things about Marlys in her obituary and am proud of her and the life she lived. So now I give my condolences to her family and pray that the comfort of the Lord are with you always.

    I thank the Lord that as little girls I knew your wonderful mother and wife.
    I was then Virginia (Ginny) Wieriman. I married a neighbor, Paul Harris, who lived on 33rd and Newton and whose dad was the Pastor at our neighborhood Grace Methodist Church.

    Ginny Harris
    • Ginny:
      Today is Jan 11, 2021. I had not checked the funeral home page in over 8 months, but when I did so I found your August entry.

      We likely never met, but I know you well because you were Marlys’s childhood friend. She often talked about you! I would enjoy exchanging more information with you. If you read this, you can email me at jlrivard123@sbccglobal.net.

      Thank you for reaching out.

      John Rivard

      John Rivard

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